Monk Man Series - 4 Watching my thoughts, catching negativity before it grows....

 

There were days when if I didn’t like someone, I would keep complaining about them. I would talk about them over the phone, with friends, or with whoever was ready to listen. I never realized how deeply this habit had settled into me.

One day Monk Man asked,
“What do you gain by criticising people all the time? What do you build inside yourself?”

He said when we bad-mouth others, we don’t damage their image first — we damage our own mind. We create negative thoughts, negative energy, and negative impressions inside ourselves. But I didn’t listen. I happily continued with my habit. I thought complaining made me feel lighter.

But Monk Man warned me strictly one day:
“If I hear you doing this again, I will talk to the person on the other side and tell them not to speak to you anymore. Enough of this!”

The shock was real! So I started doing it secretly when he wasn’t around, and behind his back. But he kept noticing—not the words, but the energy.

Monk Man never complained about anyone. He always picked good qualities—even in the crooked ones. I would wonder how he stayed so calm.

He explained gently:
“When we hate someone, we are actually creating hate cells inside our own body. We spoil our own peace, our own health. Why destroy ourselves for someone who doesn’t even know what we’re thinking?”

His advice was simple:

If you don’t like someone, don’t speak about them. If needed, stay away. But don’t carry hate in your heart. We cannot live alone. We have to live among people, so at least stop finding faults in everyone.”

He even prayed for people who troubled him, saying:
“That is how we build happy cells within. That is how we stay positive.”

And slowly—very, very, very slowly—I began to understand. Of course, I still speak about people sometimes, but not to complain. I simply accept that they are the way they are. I now know I have a choice:
to hold on and suffer,
or to leave it and sail on.

I have slowly stopped judging people for what they are. It’s their life, their personality. Why should I complain and waste my energy building negativity inside me?

Now I remind myself:

 Silence heals more than complaint.
Acceptance brings more peace than criticism.